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Grief support for all Grievers

Embody the love you carry for all you have lost

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Hello,

I’m Sarah Jane

I am a childless, not by choice, widow. I have experienced the loss of my husband, infertility, multiple miscarriages, chronic medical conditions, and a hysterectomy.

I know grief deeply. I know the isolation of standing in the rubble of your former life. I know the loss of identity, confidence and purpose. I know the strain on relationships, the feeling of being an outsider and not knowing where to turn.

I also know that grief can be integrated when it is honoured and witnessed. When you are seen and heard in your grief, confidence can grow, new identities can be inhabited, purpose can be discovered, relationships can expand, belonging can be found, and joy can be uncovered.

With the right support and guidance, I know that you can live a life of purpose and meaning alongside the grief and loss.

Learn more about Sarah-Jane and how she supports childless women and all grievers>

Free ResourcES

Head to the resource section to register for a self-compassion course designed for us, childless women.

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Ways we can work together…

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01. Online Group Coaching Program

Reclaim Your Life is a live group online program for childless women looking to:

  • integrate the grief of childlessness,

  • re-establish trust and connection with your body,

  • find a sense of belonging,

  • regain self-confidence,

  • explore possibilities,

  • uncover joy.

Learn more about Group Coaching

02. 1:1 Grief companioning for all Grievers

I can help you understand, integrate, and honour your grief. I know you can find your footing, learn to be with your sorrow, and embody the love you carry for all you have lost.

Learn more about 1:1 Grief Companioning

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Finding Meaning as a Childless Woman
Finding Meaning as a Childless Woman

Due to our pronatalist society, there is an overwhelming message that without children, a woman's life has no purpose or meaning. I don't believe this, but I have felt this. We are unconsciously receiving and believing societal messages all the time. Unpacking, exploring and re-writing unconsciously held beliefs is a big part of integrating grief and opening up to the possibilities of a happy childless life. But where to start?

Nurturing Threads: Maintaining Filaments of Relationship to the Broader World Amid Childless Grief 
Nurturing Threads: Maintaining Filaments of Relationship to the Broader World Amid Childless Grief 

Through a relationship with the natural world, we are reminded of the impermanence of all things and that we are not spared from these cycles. For me, this gives grief a rightful place.

An Apprenticeship With Sorrow
An Apprenticeship With Sorrow

Grief isn't an emotion. It is a core human capacity - if we can turn towards sorrow and engage with it - this deepens our capacity and creates a relationship with grief.

Relationships aren't passive. To be fulfilling, they need regular attention. This relationship is where we pay attention, witness, be, and tend to our grief. With loving care and attention, the grief can soften. This attention allows us to move forward with our experiences and be curious about what is possible.

Living a Childless Life: Acceptance Pt. 2
Living a Childless Life: Acceptance Pt. 2

What does it mean to face the reality of living a childless life?

Does it mean you must accept you will be sad forever?

Does it mean you must accept being treated as less than because you aren't a mother?

Does it mean you must accept not having holidays off work so your colleagues can spend that time with their children?

Living a Childless Life: Acceptance Pt. 1
Living a Childless Life: Acceptance Pt. 1

Acceptance is an often misunderstood concept as it relates to grief and childlessness. Practicing acceptance doesn't mean that you feel good about being childless. It doesn't mean that the losses along the path to living a childless life don't affect you anymore. It doesn't mean that you will never feel sadness. Acceptance isn't an endorsement of your childlessness. It also isn't a static state which you reach, and the other stations or experiences of grief disappear.

Embrace The Possibilities of Your Childless Life
Embrace The Possibilities of Your Childless Life

Life isn’t going to look like I wanted it to. I’m not able to have the child that I wanted, but who knows what’s next? And it’s clear I can’t go on like I am. Maybe it’s time to find new possibilities.

Creating a Life of Meaning: Unlocking the Potential Beyond Your Childless Identity
Creating a Life of Meaning: Unlocking the Potential Beyond Your Childless Identity

Here's the truth: your inherent worth and value are not tied to having children or your childlessness. In this article, we will explore the steps you can take to embrace your childless identity, discover your passions, and build a rich life with purpose and fulfillment. There is so much more to your story than childlessness.

Acceptance of Your Childless Body
Acceptance of Your Childless Body

I share my childless story and how I dug deep into my experience with yoga and embodiment practices to reconnect with myself, find self-compassion and move towards acceptance of myself and my body.

Even if our journeys to childlessness aren’t the same, I know the mind-body connection is crucial in uncovering the confidence needed to step forward on the childless path.

16 Types of Childless Grief: Part Five
16 Types of Childless Grief: Part Five

This article looks at disenfranchised grief and secondary loss. These types of loss describe the childless not-by-choice experience so well. When I heard about these types of grief, I sighed in relief as I found validation of my feelings and my experience.

16 Types of Childless Grief Part Four
16 Types of Childless Grief Part Four

The grief of childlessness is a complex and individual experience that can manifest in various ways. Each type of grief deserves attention and support from loved ones and professionals. It is important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve, and everyone should be allowed to process their emotions in their own time and manner.

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