Self-Care for Childless not by Choice Women on Mother’s Day

Written By sarah jane smith

With Mother's Day on the horizon where I live (Canada), I am doubling up on my self-care.

This year, my self-care looks like this:

  • Connecting with trusted friends and asking for their support over the weekend and the week after M Day. This can look like texting to see how I am, calling to see how I am, or planning to spend time with me.

  • Reminding my partner that M Day is coming up and that I need his support and attention. For many years, I hoped he would know/remember when the big trigger days were, but he doesn't. So it has been much better for both of us when I let him know what I need and when I will need it.

  • Giving myself extra integration time after M Day. The days following a big trigger day are the hardest for me.

  • Committing to and scheduling extra self-compassion meditation practices before and after M Day.

  • Buying myself flowers or a plant even though I have asked my partner to do the same thing. More flowers and plants equal more beauty and sweetness in my life.

  • Thinking ahead to what I would like to eat over the weekend and a few days after. I love cooking and have many beautiful cookbooks. So I get them out, become inspired and get everything I need ahead of time.

  • Giving myself permission to change my mind and opt out of plans if I'm not up for it on the day.


I know the day and those surrounding M Day are some of the hardest in the year. In light of this, and understanding the positive impact of both tender and fierce self-compassion in my life, I have opened FREE access to the:


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Take care of yourself.

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